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Long distance relationships

Postby carlita16 » Mon Jul 27, 2015 1:42 pm

Well, I broke with my boyfriend about a month ago. We had a relationship of almost 2 years, with him living on the other side of our country. We met online (which I know it's dangerous), we exchanged information, we had phone calls and videocalls by skype and we arranged a meeting this summer when we were both 18. My parents knew about it and so did his, but he changed his mind right when I convinced my parents to visit him.
He hasn't talked to me since then and neither have I. I feel disappointed and mad at him, but I hated myself for getting attached and making him my whole life. I thought it was worth the wait... It looks like it didn't.
I know I didn't behave correctly sometimes, I was feeling alone and miserable without him. I fell in love with him so hard and I needed him by my side. But still, I don't think I deserved this. After 2 years talking every day, every hour and now... I don't know anything about him. I erased all his photos, his chats, his videos, his number... all I had of him. I think I am better without him but I find it quite selfish how he behaved. I get the feeling that he didn't care about me. If he ever talks to me again I don't know how will I react. Some part of me still loves him but... it isn't enough. He called me dreamer, for believing in us... but I thought it was meant to be and I was willing to wait to be with him.
I'm better than I thought I would be. I gave up quickly. I still need to turn the page, but I think I'll be able to.




That's my story! Quite a drama haha I just needed to let everything out, I feel relieved now! ^_^
So girls, do any of you have any experience in this kind of relationship? Do you believe in them? They can be possible? Feel free to give your opinion girls! :love: LOVE IS IN THE AIR :love:
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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby allenafaith » Fri Aug 14, 2015 9:45 am

I'm actually in a long distance relationship right now, and it's fine.
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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby carlita16 » Fri Aug 21, 2015 11:26 am

allenafaith wrote:I'm actually in a long distance relationship right now, and it's fine.


Then, girl, you are so lucky! I'm really glad for you, the distance can make a love stronger.
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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby Sarahbelle » Sun Aug 23, 2015 8:22 pm

I'm sorry you had such a rough time of it.

Personally, I met my husband online through a mutual interest. It was very difficult for us when we were apart because we are from different countries and could only see each other once a year. But after four years of dating (I knew him as a friend for a year before that, so five years communications), I finally took the step of faith and moved out here to marry him. We've been married almost two years now, and those crazy years and all we went through were definitely worth it.

I know others that it has and hasn't worked for, too. What it boils down to is if the two people involved are right for each other, if they are willing to put in the effort to keep the relationship going despite the distance and difficulties, and if one of them is eventually willing to leave home to be with the other.

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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby LucyKamui » Wed Oct 14, 2015 12:07 pm

i think long distance relationships are similar to classic relationships - you have to sacrifice stuff for both.

i believe they can work out, but you need clear signs from the other person - they need to show you they want the same things as you do.

For instance, if you want to meet, tell the other person. If they want the same thing, they will agree to meet you half way even. I think the guy should be the first to visit the girl [assuming it's a straight couple] - unless the girl traveled to his city for work or study before they met, got together, and then continued their relationship.

If the other person doesn't want to meet you, they will avoid talking about the matter, they will delay the meeting, and so on. :(

I'm sorry you had to pass through this, but be sure that you WILL meet a guy who will want to be with you no matter what. you're still young, focus on your studies for now and the right guy WILL find you. you don't have to find him.

good luck to everyone who is in a [long distance] relationship. :)
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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby CherryDNA » Tue Dec 22, 2015 1:25 am

If I'm honest I think you're probably better of without him. If he's not ready to make the effort to see you or even try to see you it's not really a good start for a relationship. I know you've used a lot of time and probably even money (phonecalls do come with price) to be able to be with him, but trust me - nothing you have experienced goes to waste. Even though our relationships won't always work, we take the experiences and things we've learned with us. Some experiences I've had about relationships have saved me from lots of trouble later in life. Also, it's easier to spot rotten apples from fresh ones when you've seen couple of each in your life time. ;)

I'm sure there's someone out there waiting for you, who'll be more than worth all that attention and love you've got to give! :blush:

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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby JaneAll » Thu Aug 03, 2017 2:30 pm

I've also met my husband on the Intenet. It was really difficult to keep our feelings so long time in distance. He was born in Europe and then came in to my home.
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Re: Long distance relationships

Postby JaneAll » Wed Aug 09, 2017 4:53 pm

LucyKamui wrote:i think long distance relationships are similar to classic relationships - you have to sacrifice stuff for both.



I do not think so. There are many ways to keep relationship on a distance. For example this service for communication keku it's free for Android and iPhone. I'm using it during all summer and I'm satisfied with this opportunity very much. Yep, maybe the relationship on distance is a bit difficault but it gives some new feelings when you are missing your love.
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